'Strictly follow depth chart' is the option you should be using if you don't want the coach to interfere at all.. Its the only option I ever use, and I've never had a problem.
As I see it, and from what I've learned in the short time I've been here, if you pick the best lineup possible and still use one of the coaches options, it will only change a small amount, if you are way off and starting players that are inferior to your bench players, coach will change them around in order to get the best result from the game.
The way around this is as stated (in numerous threads), is by using strictly follow depth chart.
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